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Sep 13, 20232 min

Two Thanksgivings a Day and Starving at the Buffet: Compassion for Libido Discrepancy

When someone's baseline interest in sex is low, it is understandable for sex to feel like a burden. It's sort of like being asked to eat...

Aug 31, 20232 min

Testing the Bullet Proof Vest

A recent conversation between a couple in conflict provided an interesting metaphor about emotional safety as a prerequisite for clear,...

Jul 7, 20233 min

The Paradox of Looking Stupid: the Benefits of a Growth Mindset

A few years ago, after years of mostly working and hanging out at home, I decided I needed some new hobbies- especially the kind of hobby...

May 28, 20235 min

Obsessed with Child Molestation: It's Not What You're Thinking

Now that I have your attention, let me reiterate- it's not what you're thinking. Unless you deal with OCD and experience the sorts of...